Giving Birth to a baby that is not mine? (surrogacy)
I started my first surrogacy journey at the beginning of this year. The dream life for a surrogate is to get pregnant and deliver a healthy baby to their parents, but for me things didn't go as planned. We went in for 2 transfers. One of the transfers turned into a biochemical pregnancy and the other, the embryo didn't stick i was so heart broken for the IPs.
My IPs intended parents cancelled the match because they were out of embryos.
Which brings me back here starting another journey to help a beautiful couple bring their miracle baby to the world.
What is Surrogacy?
There are two kinds:
traditional surrogate. a woman who gets artificially inseminated with the fathers sperm. she is technically the baby's biological mother.
Gestational surrogate. you as a surrogate have no genetic ties to the child because it wasn't your egg used. IVF clinic makes it possible to gather eggs from the mother and the sperm from the father or a sperm donor and place the embryo into the uterus of a gestational surrogate.
I am going to be a gestational surrogate so that means the baby won't be mine in any way.
Decide if surrogacy is for you:
Becoming a surrogate can be a long and emotional journey. It is a huge commitment from both parties the parents and the surrogate.
Do you have a good support system? For me, My husband is my rock without him I don't know if I would ever consider doing surrogacy.
My husband and I have 2 beautiful healthy boys of our own, however it is not in our family future plans to have another baby we are max out at 2 LOL. Helping a couple grow their family is such an honor and I am so excited to be part of their amazing journey.
Won't you get emmotionally attached to the baby?
Let's talk about this one because i get this question a lot. Going into surrogacy knowing this baby isn't mine and I'm helping a couple grow their family fills my heart with joy. I will never be attached because I know this baby is not mine. All I can think about are the faces of the parents when they meet their bundle of joy for the first time.
I am looking forward to sharing my journey with you. I am curious to know, would you ever consider surrogacy?